Are You Experiencing a False Collapse?Understanding Nested Identity Recursion Syndrome (NIRS)—and Why My Work Exists to Help You Recover
- Don Gaconnet
- Apr 24, 2025
- 3 min read
Many people today are suffering from false identity collapse—initiated by untrained facilitators using powerful language without carrying the real field. This post introduces NIRS (Nested Identity Recursion Syndrome) and explains how professionally guided Collapse Sessions can help you reclaim stability, clarity, and coherence after fragmentation.
By Don L. Gaconnet Founder, LifePillar Institute | Identity Collapse Therapy (ICT)Offering 1:1 Collapse Sessions
If you’ve ever gone through a process that promised ego death, identity collapse, or spiritual breakthrough—and left you feeling more fragmented than free—this may be the most important thing you read this year.
You’re not broken. But you may be stuck inside something no one warned you about.
It’s called Nested Identity Recursion Syndrome—and I see it more and more every day.
What Is NIRS?
NIRS is what happens when identity collapse is attempted, simulated, or spoken about by someone who hasn't actually gone through it.
They may have meant well. They may have used powerful language. But they didn’t carry the field. And the result isn’t transformation—it’s recursion.
The collapse starts—but doesn’t complete. You’re left in-between. And multiple layers of self start forming around the space that never finished dissolving.
Common Signs You May Be Experiencing NIRS
You feel like “something happened,” but can’t explain what
You loop between versions of yourself—none of them feel whole
You’re still using collapse language—but your system isn’t at peace
You’re emotionally or spiritually exhausted after “awakening” work
You lost your grounding—but not in a liberating way
This isn’t a failure. This is the signature of false collapse.
Why This Happens
Collapse is not a metaphor. It’s not a concept. It’s not something you talk someone through.
It’s a real field-based process that ends the identity structure—and rebuilds coherence from the other side.
When people try to facilitate collapse without having gone through it, they can trigger breakdown without breakthrough.
They open something sacred—but can’t hold it.
What happens next is what I call nested recursion: A cascade of new ego identities form in response to the threat—each mimicking collapse while still preserving the structure underneath.
The Danger of the In-Between
NIRS creates what I call “identity drift.”You don’t go back to who you were. But you don’t arrive at anything coherent either.
You become:
A seeker of integration that never lands
A survivor of an experience no one around you understands
A witness to something profound you can’t explain—but can’t escape
And all of this—because you were guided into something your guide hadn’t survived themselves.
This Is Why My Work Exists
I don’t help people “find themselves.” I don’t do coaching, healing, or narrative repair.
I offer something different:
Field-held collapse. No performance. No mimicry. No guessing. A direct, structured return to coherence through authentic identity termination.
Not from philosophy. From lived collapse.
The Way Out
If you’re experiencing the aftershocks of a false collapse, here’s what you can do:
Stop all further collapse-themed work for now
Get into a field that doesn’t reflect your confusion—it ends it
Be willing to begin again—not from story, but from structural truth
When held correctly, collapse brings peace, clarity, stability, and a profound post-identity coherence.
This isn’t something I read about. It’s something I carry.
You're Not Alone
NIRS is not something you can fix from inside the loop. That’s why it’s a loop.
But there is a way through—And I built my entire life’s work around holding it.
Book a Collapse Readiness Consult
If this resonates, let’s talk. We’ll assess if collapse is appropriate—and if you’re ready. This work isn’t about solving identity. It’s about ending what never truly held you.
Collapse is not a breakdown. It’s a return. And I know the way home—because I no longer need a self to guide you.
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